Relationship Tools

Love maps are building a map to increase our knowledge and understanding of our partner's inner world. Asking questions like: what was your favorite holiday? What is your favorite memory of us as a couple? What is the most embarrassing thing that has happened to you? What is the food you like the most? dislike the most? There are many other questions that you can ask but I definitely recommend asking further clarifying questions like: tell me more about _____, what was it about that _____ you liked. Here are some of the benefits of building love maps: - shows interest - builds up knowledge of their inner world -increases things you know about the other -learning more can assist us to appreciate them more increases friendship Look for support for your relationship? Reach out to me I would be honoured to support you and your partner! www.angelajanscounselling.com Disclaimer: these tips are not meant to replace therapy. If you are looking for support for yourself or a family member I encourage you to reach out. Examples of love maps for adults: https://www.pinterest.ca/pin/15692298675697374/ for kids: https://www.facebook.com/.../are-you.../693688801413087/ Check out the Gottman Institute here: https://www.gottman.com

Looking for a few tips on how to help your children, youth, and/or partner to feel heard and understood?? Here are a few. See below for the links to the videos. Disclaimer: these tips are not meant to replace therapy. If you are struggling to communicate with your kids, youth or partner, counselling can assist to identify patterns that are not helpful but also be a space to assist with building these communication muscles. It’s not about the nail https://youtu.be/-4EDhdAHrOg Inside Out clip: https://www.facebook.com/Pointsofyoucanada.ca/videos/1752121394968628/

Ever given yourself a timeout?? Taking that break when you are feeling overwhelmed can allow you to bring yourself back down to calm. This break can be encouraged whether you are getting overwhelmed OR if you see someone else getting overwhelmed (your partner or your child). 3 things to remember: 1. Be aware of your own emotional level 2. Take a time out - tell the other person you need a few minutes to yourself 3. do an activity that will calm you down Looking for ideas of what to do when you are overwhelmed? Go check out this video on grounding tools https://youtu.be/YAKwoJC7Yi0 Flipping your lid Daniel Siegal https://youtu.be/gm9CIJ74Oxw Thanks for watching! Disclaimer: these tips are not meant to replace therapy. If you are looking for support for yourself or a family member I encourage you to reach out. www.angelajanscounselling.com